I recently received an email from one of my friends called Alina and I thought I could share some thoughts with you.
Following is the message…
“This might be trickest of all questions, atleast for me. My last question still remains unanswered to me. according to Moly were politically correct or beyond my understanding. From last fifteen years, me and my hubby were together. As a man he has many personalities each different from other one.
I should leave that for other time. Right now, we are happy being together. Its been for a short time after lots of fights, and counselling, and separtion. But again i can see those same signs, my hubby’s curiosity to talk or to find other women, texting, chatting and all. Let me clear, he shared with me an open site for video chatting with strangers. I didnt said nything. just let it go. In front of me, he chatted with some guy.
He says he is allways busy in his office, no time to relax, so much boundations on net using in office. This site was introduced by his friend (he is also in a commited relationship) He promised me to stay with me forever, for his love being mine only.
Then why he needs some stranger to have fun. As per physical terms, we both are open to any ideas, we both love being with each other.
Is this men tendency to keep a girl aside or what. I caught him so many times sharing adult content or chatting or texting with other females(those were happy times, before our fights). Same in case of my boss, his wife being priority to him, he allways said he loves me only. When my hubby left, i was in trauma, I had a vacant space inside me, which he occupied.
As a women yeah i allways wanted to have a steady partner, but what does men out there want?”
I think it’s good that her hubby has male friends he can spend time with online or in person. I think she should find herself a few good female friends to hang out with as well. Though they two have been married for 15 years, it is still wise to keep her own interests or hobbies. Sometimes what interests a woman, may not interest a guy and vice versa.
She also mentioned before that her partner’s cheated on her and has had women “friends” on line that I guess was sexual in nature? Personally, I think that’s wrong for him to do that, and am sorry that it seems he wants to do more on line stuff again.
That’s may also be kind of a sign of disrespect, not only to her but the marriage as well. It was his original behavior that opened the door to her current situation that she is trying to resolve with our help. I just hope that after more counseling he can remember what’s important to him, and not go back to a destructive behavior for the marriage, in order to get along with her partner in the future and avoid committing the same mistake again.
Chatting openly with other men, sharing that with her may seem strange but if it works for him, then don’t fret about it, right?
Chatting with women, if he’s sharing that with you, then pay more attention to him, sit in on the chats if need be, talk to him about what you desire, what he desires, tell him that his chatting with other women bothers you, that you are working on and wanting to be close again and hopefully he and you both are willing to do whatever it takes to make that happen.
Finally, I’d like to share a great song for her – Love Never Dies